Movements Then and Now

Last night I gave a talk about my history in activism. I started with a description of coming out as bisexual back in 1985 and what it was like to try to organize a national network in 1990. I was… (READ MORE)

I Get Creative

Last night I did something I haven’t done for years: I shared a piece of my creative writing. While I do a lot of writing just about every day, I had taken a loooong break from writing the poetry and… (READ MORE)

Complaints Choirs

Recently I learned about Complaints Choirs. The first was a choir in Birmingham, England, created by two artists who wanted to “transform the huge energy that people put into complaining into something else… something powerful.” They were inspired by a… (READ MORE)

Loving What’s Here and Still Wanting Change

A friend asked how it’s possible to want change for someone without making them wrong for how they are now? Does loving someone exactly how they are mean giving up wanting change? Does seeing a different possible future automatically mean… (READ MORE)

Contemplating the Pet Peeve

A “pet peeve” is defined as a minor annoyance, something that irritates you but often doesn’t seem to bother anyone else. It also refers to an annoyance that occurs frequently or repeatedly. For instance, I have a friend who gets… (READ MORE)

Feeling Community on 9/11

In September 2001 I was counting down the final days until San Francisco’s first Lindy Exchange, three days of near-nonstop swing dancing. I was totally immersed in the event, coordinating volunteers for work shifts, juggling the collection of registration fees to… (READ MORE)

Upon Freddie Mercury’s 65th…

In tribute to what would have been Freddie Mercury’s 65th birthday, watch a moment of brilliance: The Muppets cover Bohemian Rhapsody

In Praise of Effort

I want to take a moment and reflect on what we value in learning – both in ourselves and in others. It is so easy to be focused on the goal, the end result of knowledge or skill achieved. We… (READ MORE)

Owning a Judgment

Wherein I own a specific judgment, and discuss what judgments reveal: It’s about time that I own up here to the fact that I can be extremely judgmental. My quickest trigger is when I think that someone is co-opting a… (READ MORE)

Which has more pull: Past or Future?

This idea caught my attention the other day: Learning to pay attention to the difference between taking an action in order to avoid the past vs. taking an action in order to realize a possible future. When I’m motivated by… (READ MORE)