Tag Archive: about life

Complaints Choirs

Recently I learned about Complaints Choirs. The first was a choir in Birmingham, England, created by two artists who wanted to “transform the huge energy that people put into complaining into something else… something powerful.” They were inspired by a… (READ MORE)

Loving What’s Here and Still Wanting Change

A friend asked how it’s possible to want change for someone without making them wrong for how they are now? Does loving someone exactly how they are mean giving up wanting change? Does seeing a different possible future automatically mean… (READ MORE)

Contemplating the Pet Peeve

A “pet peeve” is defined as a minor annoyance, something that irritates you but often doesn’t seem to bother anyone else. It also refers to an annoyance that occurs frequently or repeatedly. For instance, I have a friend who gets… (READ MORE)

In Praise of Effort

I want to take a moment and reflect on what we value in learning – both in ourselves and in others. It is so easy to be focused on the goal, the end result of knowledge or skill achieved. We… (READ MORE)

Owning a Judgment

Wherein I own a specific judgment, and discuss what judgments reveal: It’s about time that I own up here to the fact that I can be extremely judgmental. My quickest trigger is when I think that someone is co-opting a… (READ MORE)

Which has more pull: Past or Future?

This idea caught my attention the other day: Learning to pay attention to the difference between taking an action in order to avoid the past vs. taking an action in order to realize a possible future. When I’m motivated by… (READ MORE)

The Courage to be Goofy

In her wonderful blog, Ordinary Courage, Brene Brown wrote: “It takes courage to be awkward, goofy, and silly.” This made me think of so many things at once. I remembered that when I was directing theater, I would challenge actors… (READ MORE)

Letting the body lead the mind

Years ago I read about a fascinating psychology study. Research subjects were instructed to watch a short film clip while holding a pencil in their mouths. As I remember it, the film had no words and it showed a man… (READ MORE)

I am blessed

“Blessed” always has such a strange ring to me. I took issue with the word first when I rejected religious institutions as a child, and then later when I encountered people who I felt overused the term as they cruised… (READ MORE)

Limit to independence

There’s a strong need in our society to be independent. It’s certainly something that I internalized as one of the highest values, as one of my defining characteristics. But humans are inherently social creatures. We are so wired to each… (READ MORE)